28 January 2010

Losing Yourself?

Is it possible to still keep your individuality even when you are in a relationship? Sometimes I feel like I have lost who I am, now that I am a mom and in a relationship. It's hard to take time to focus on the things that I need sometimes when I am busy with my kids or my boyfriend. I still have dreams and need time to myself, even when I put my family first. Is it selfish to want some "ME" time? Should we lose our individuality when we become "WE"?

When do we take the time to focus on the things we need, when we are so focused on making sure that the rest of our family is okay and that their needs are being met? I feel that trying to accomplish my goals and dreams, should actually help my family, as I do need to make sure I am happy as well, so that I don't start to feel resentful. But then why do I feel guilty when I take some time to focus on myself and what I want to accomplish? Even if at the moment that may be taking 10 minutes away from the kids and my boyfriend to just take a shower and relax, to feel "human" again. It's amazing how much better one can feel after having those few minutes to one's self.

So how do we take care of our families and fulfill our own needs? How do we find that balance to keep our chaotic lives under control? How do we not lose our own individuality while juggling our multiple roles, whatever those may be? I guess it takes time and practice to figure this all out, and for each of us it will be a different path that we take to get there. Best of luck to us all...